Having a Baby

Don’t get excited by the title of this post.  Britney is not pregnant.  Neither am I.  The purpose of this post is just to express my observations and experiences as someone in his late twenties and without child.

One of the first questions I receive from someone that I have not seen in a while is inevitably in regard to our plans to have children.  The conversation usually goes something like this:

Friend/Relative: So, any children coming soon?

Britney/Brad: Oh, one day.  Not in the near future.

Friend/Relative:  (shocked) What?!?!

Britney/Brad:  Oh, you know, maybe in about four years.

Friend/Relative:  FOUR YEARS!!!!  You can’t wait THAT long!  You’ll be too old!

Britney/Brad: Oh, well, we will go ahead and have one now and send him/her to you to take care of.

We don’t really say that last line.  We don’t really know what to say.

My question is, who decides when a couple should have a baby?  There is a lot of pressure from family and society in general to have them sooner rather than later.  I believe you’ve got to do what is right for you, not what other people think you should do.  If you want a baby right now and feel you are ready, go ahead, have one.  If you aren’t ready, why is there this social stigma that is placed on you?

We are at a point in our lives in which we just want to enjoy each other.  We want to do the things that we may not be able to do once we have children.  Some people see that as selfish.  I don’t see it that way.  When we have children, I want to be ready.  That means different things for different couples.  For us it means our thirties.  Or at least we think it does. It seems that in the eyes of society this makes us strange, weird, stuck-up, immature, etc.  Why is this?

I am fully aware that things don’t often go as planned.  As Robert Burns wrote, “The best laid schemes o’ mice an’ men / Gang aft a-gley.”  If our plans gang a-gley, we are ready to welcome the unexpected blessing.  But just because plans don’t always work out, that is not a reason to abandon one’s plan.

Don’t worry, Mom.  We will provide a grandchild for you soon enough.  And when we do, we know who to call to babysit!

According to the merging of our faces, our little girl will look like this.  Cute, huh?

According to the merging of our faces, our little girl will look like this. Cute, huh?

This will be Bradley Reid Freeny II.  After seeing this, do you really want us to reproduce?

This will be Bradley Reid Freeny III. I don't know about you, but to me it looks like he is staring into my soul. I'm scared.


3 Responses to “Having a Baby”

  1. Britney Freeny Says:

    You know this is how rumors get started.

  2. Brian Mac Says:

    You’re right Brad, this IS freaky! Chipley thinks it looks more like Britney…are you SURE it’s a girl?

  3. freeny81 Says:

    Well, I actually thought the girl was kind of cute-haha! It’s the boy that scares me!

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